Sugarland Blogs: Now Featuring Ally from Boston!

Wed, May 16, 2012 at 9:40 AM

Blog by Ally


There was a long time, probably close to 5 years, when my relationship with my father was like a roller coaster, and not a very fun one. I had all but given up hope of ever recreating a positive relationship with him, but one night, May 20, 2011, changed my outlook. My dad asked me what I wanted for my 18th birthday, and without hesitation, I said SugarPit tickets for this show. I originally meant for me and a friend, but he was so excited to go I couldn't tell him that.

I went home 'sick' from school the day of the presale, logged onto the website 10 minutes early and sat there refreshing the page every 60 seconds until it was time to buy the tickets. I have never been quite so excited to purchase anything in my entire life. The day of the show, my dad picked me up from school an hour early, and we drove to the Comcast Center, about an hour away from home. We got there before the parking lots were even open, and sat in the car listening to The Incredible Machine on my iPod until we could go park. After we got out of the car, I triple checked I had my laminate, and we went and sat on the cold concrete for the next couple hours, chatting with all the other awesome and super dedicated fans who had lined up with us.

There's something to be said for that experience of sharing time with complete strangers, some of whom had driven hours to get there. These are people that under any other circumstances, any other band, place, time, or reality you never would meet. I found it to be one of the most rewarding parts of the whole day, meeting these people and hearing their stories, and how Sugarland had touched each of them enough to be sitting on the ground with 2 hours to go before the doors would even open. Once we got inside, my dad and I managed to get a spot right up against the stage. The stands hadn't even begun to be filled yet, and I already had the sense that we were in for something magical.

The show started, and I right away melted in to the wonder that is Matt Nathanson. Phillip from Little Big Town reached down and handed me a guitar pick, something I will never forget, and something I wear proudly around my neck every day, and then the lights went down one last time. I think I took about 200 pictures that night, trying to capture as much of that night as I possibly could. I got chills the moment the first bars of "All We Are" flooded the air around me, and everytime I think of watching Kristian play guitar mere inches from where I stood I get goosebumps all over again. I can still feel this shivers running up and down my spine hearing Jennifer sing my favorite song, "Settlin,'" as I watched her walk right past me. I can still sense the unabashed glee that overcame me as I felt her hand hit mine as she walked by me during "Every Girl Like Me." I got home with a voice hoarse from singing and yelling, and a body sore from dancing. The smile didn't leave my face for days. But what I really got, as lame and cheesy as it may very well sound, is another chance at a relationship with the father I had almost given up on. There is something about the night we shared together that has inspired me to forgive and to try to move on. I think there might be a magical healing power somehow instilled in the words and music of "Settlin'" and "Everyday America" and "Find the Beat Again."

I don't know how to describe it, but somehow, some way, there is something to this music that makes it more than just songs and instruments, but a tool that opens your eyes to what you have and what you could have and that, in my opinion, however much that matters, makes a Sugarland concert, this Sugarland concert, something that I will never forget because of what it gave me back, the drive and the desire to fix something that was very, very broken.

  1. dostep avatar

    On Sat, May 19, 2012 at 3:42 AM, dostep said:

    Great story Ally. I'm glad you gave your Dad another chance and I hope your relationship will continue to improve. I have a son I haven't seen in 3 years and can only wish that we could mend things. Maybe someday.....

  2. New Country Fans avatar

    On Fri, May 18, 2012 at 2:37 AM, New Country Fans said:

    I am probably as old or older than your dad and I can say, you are right. Sugarland songs don't stick within 1 generation and I would suspect your dad walked away with the same feelings as you did. I have been to 5 Sugarland concerts now and every single time, without exception, when the lights go down that last time and I know Sugarland is on, I get chills, I get on my feet and do things I just don't do - I dance, i sing, I jump and I don't care who sees me! I act like an 18 year old girl I guess. But their music is special. I have sometimes wondered why it is so special, does it wear off, will I feel this way in 10 years, and I can say that it won't wear off becuase it gets into your feelings. The music is healing, uplifting, emotional, and it runs deep. Go with what happened that night and know that you and your dad can come together. Have faith!

  3. bubba vance avatar

    On Thu, May 17, 2012 at 10:11 AM, bubba vance said:

    Wow, I'm a dad with a real issue with my oldest daughter...she and I haven't talked for almost a year now....reading this gives me hope and a reason to think it can get better...she's coming to visit late this month.. thanks Ally!

  4. SugarLuv78 avatar

    On Thu, May 17, 2012 at 6:01 AM, SugarLuv78 said:

    Wow! Great story, thank you for sharing! Reading your blog brought tears to my eyes. Sugarland music does have a way of helping people through some rough times! I hope you and your father continue to mend your relationship as family is the most important thing in our lives! God Bless you!

  5. Alayna1494 avatar

    On Thu, May 17, 2012 at 1:55 AM, Alayna1494 said:

    What a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. It brought tears to my eyes.

  6. USER avatar

    On Wed, May 16, 2012 at 8:58 PM, USER said:

    Absolutely a great story. Sugarland has that effect on people. Stay the course with your dad. Friends come and go, but family is forever. And you only get one. Ever.

  7. B avatar

    On Wed, May 16, 2012 at 8:06 PM, B said:

    This is beautiful Ally! Thank you for sharing with us! It's amazing how the power of music brings people together.

  8. Robyn avatar

    On Wed, May 16, 2012 at 6:16 PM, Robyn said:

    Great story allie, sugarland's does indeed have a healing power and lights up your heart to make positive change in your life! Thank you for sharing I hope everything continues to go well for you ! I have been to four shows and they light my heart up everytime.

  9. cbutler7905 avatar

    On Wed, May 16, 2012 at 6:10 PM, cbutler7905 said:

    That is an awesome story!!! Very touching and happy for you ,you have another chance to mend things! That blog gives me chills!! I had issues not the same but similar with my father years ago...and other issues with friends. And you are 100% correct with music "sugarland" sings they have meaning and made me open my eyes as well with a lot of things in my life! "Little miss" and "find the beat again" and several other songs of there's that really make me think! Your story is very inspiring for some and letting them know there is always a second chance at fixing things! No matter how bad it may be! I hope I get the chance one day to be in the "sugarpit" my gosh that is my dream and i hope and pray it happens someday!!!

  10. KathieGunn avatar

    On Wed, May 16, 2012 at 5:54 PM, KathieGunn said:

    Congratulations, Ally...great story! Thank you for sharing your special night with does indeed sound magical. I hope that your relationship with your father continues to grow in a strong and positive way.

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